*When we say do not date or marry* an unbeliever people think we’re being unfair or religious. 😔

Let me tell you something…

There are two sides to a character pattern
1. What the person is doing
2. What the person is not doing.

The fact is, most people get caught up with what the person is doing to them and they forget what he is not doing.

He is so nice, he buys me gift, he pays the bills, he’s a giver, he’s a good man.

But he is cheating on you, but he smokes, or he drinks, or he gets angry on little things, or he’s bossy, or he lies to you just to keep his pride, he does illegal business and so on.

But you didn’t care, you went in with him thinking he will change.


Did you know Humans are naturally capable of misbehaving. People change behaviors.

Have you ever woke up one morning and you felt like doing cast, you know just misbehaving for a second?🤦‍♂️

Something you know is very stupid. For example, those in a relationship, like just having sex just one time. 🫣
But did you?
No. 😌
Wait, did you?🤔
Hope you didn’t

If you did as you felt or you do as you feel, you’re someone without authority. No governance. You need help urgently.🙇‍♂️

The truth is those silly thoughts comes to everyone, even the fire brand people. 😁
So stop giving excuses. it happens to everyone.

But because you’re sinning doesn’t mean everyone else is. Let me just drop this truth: righteousness is not trying not to sin. In fact when you try not to sin, you sin. Because of sin consciousness. To walk in righteousness is engage your accepted and regenerated spirit in fellowship with God. Have you heard this word. A praying man will stop sinning, and a sinning man will stop praying. That’s the pattern.

Alright let’s continue….

Why do you think men cheat?
A natural man is not satisfied with one woman. Forget it.🤷🏻‍♂️

No matter how beautiful and set you are, a time will come when thoughts of trying another will come to him.

When someone is sexually active, His desire begins to deepen, and desires to explore more options.

A woman can cope more with one man than a man can cope.

But take note I said *natural man*.

The reason you didn’t do cast even if you felt like is that you are born again. You are now submitted to Christ in you not your flesh and you have the fear of God like Joseph.

Apart from that you also understand that *”He who is born of God cannot Sin* something have sha happened to you.

But one who is an unbeliever will classify that act as *” putting body and soul together, we are all Humans”*

So you would have to cope with unfaithfulness in marriage.
Now when that begins to happen, you open your home to more sin.

Suddenly he begins to drink.

When someone drinks, one gets high!
But something dies gradually inside. People who drink alcohol have a shorter lifespan. It affects the liver gradually.☹️

In science, they call it chronic impairment…

So when he is 50, his organs deteriorate faster than normal, so at 60, you should be getting ready to take care of someone with liver failure or someone with a stroke. And soon you will be alone.

Sorry, I am referring to the men now, but the woman is the main subject here because they are the ones who chose. 😊

A man can have different options, if A doesn’t work B will Work. 🙆‍♂️

No one marries at gunpoint, you have the opportunity to choose now.

Look at this scripture

1 Corinthians 11:3
“But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God”
This speaks of Authority and Fatherhood!🔥

If the head of a man is not Christ then it’s surely the devil.

So you’re going to have the devil’s authority in your home. He has the right to do anything he wants.

You see why he won’t change later, the head won’t allow him to.

All you will be able to do then is to just be praying… From one prayer house to another.

No talk will be able to change anything.

If he doesn’t love God, he can’t love you the way he ought.

Niceness is not a fruit of the spirit.

The fruit of the spirit is Love, and then every other character of love follows. Galatians 5:22

Hate no one, nor judge anyone, but patterns never fail. That is how it is.
Someone who is a traditional man will see you as inferior to him. Be ready to comply or you face the wrath of the gods😅.

*I will talk about the Red Flags next*

*Dr. Ray Life Coach*

Ifechi’s diary

Good day my wonderful people,

Starting up with beautiful novel,

I would be dropping best of African novels , based on life style, relationship, greener pastures, and many more .

May God bless you as you read my novels , and I do accept advice, if there’s any error on my novels that you want me to correct I would be very happy if you share ur opinions with me.

Sincerely no one knows it all and we learn everyday.

The weather, surely it’s beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️ .

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